OUR DIFFERENCES ARE ACTUALLY OUR BEAUTIES
Gönül was
gazing outside with a coffee cup in her hand. She opened the window handle to
breathe in the scent of the quietly falling rain. The moment she opened it, the
cold wind brushed her face, and she closed it again. As she sipped her coffee,
she was already lost in thought.
The
questions in her mind kept circling back. It was as if the answers lay hidden
in her cup of coffee. To an outsider watching her, it might seem odd—what could
be so fascinating in a simple coffee cup? But she wasn’t aware of anyone around
her. All she could think about were the things said about her daughter Sude at
yesterday’s parent-teacher meeting. The teacher had mentioned that Sude was
often late to class and failed to turn in her assignments on time.
Gönül was
shocked to hear this. After all, she saw herself as a very disciplined mother.
She was the mother of two children and a manager at a company. After the
meeting, she began to wonder: she had no difficulty managing a large firm, but
when it came to understanding her children, she seemed to struggle.
Did she
really know her daughter Sude? What kind of child was Sude, truly? Why did she
have such a wide circle of friends? Gönül herself could count her close friends
on the fingers of one hand.
She asked
herself: “Where did I go wrong? Who was responsible for all this? How could
my daughter and I be so different?” They were like the poles of a magnet,
unable to meet in the middle.
Every
morning, she woke her daughter up early for school. Yet, her teacher had said
she was late.
Not long
after, Gönül made a decision. She would work hard to change Sude’s behavior, to
get her on track. As a solution, she began constantly interfering with Sude’s
actions: “Daughter, tidy up your room, fold your clothes after school, do
your homework,” she would say.
When Sude
made plans with friends, her mother would refuse: “No, you can’t go.”
Gönül
believed that by doing all this, her daughter would change and improve. But
things did not go as she expected. The problems between mother and daughter
only grew.
Sude
thought her mother was acting this way because she didn’t love her. Meanwhile,
Gönül began to realize her daughter was drifting further away.
“Trying
to fix things, I’ve only made them worse,” she
admitted to herself.
She
thought about herself and her own sister: how different they were, despite
being born and raised under the same roof. How could she expect her daughter to
be the same as her? She needed to accept Sude as she was.
The
change, she realized, wasn’t needed in Sude but in herself. “I must begin
the change within me,” she said.
After
all, every person is born with their own traits, temperament, and character.
Everyone reacts differently to the same situation. So what was the real reason
behind our differences? Who defines who we are?
As these
thoughts filled her mind, the doorbell rang, startling her. She opened the
door. Standing there was her daughter Sude.
“Welcome home, my dear,” she said, and hugged her daughter tightly.
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