Is “Normal” Really Normal?

                                                   

Esra and Ali were going to get married soon and they were looking around to get somethings for the house. Living room sets consisted of three, two and two single sofas. They couldn't understand why they should buy it if they weren't going to sit in the living room. Both their mothers had been trying to explain for days that this was a “necessity”. Not just the living room set. There were a lot of things on their list that they were never going to use… 

And of course, the wedding expenses also weighed on the couple. Wedding hall, hairdresser, photo shoot, jewelry,... a lot of expenses. Then there’s the henna night. Esra would wear 3 different dresses. Because this was the “normal” now. They were also going to do a wedding dance. For this, it was necessary to find a dance teacher and practice the choreography. Well, it was done at every wedding now.

Like most things that change over time, weddings, homes, relationships, and raising children have also changed...

The same cup sets adorned homes. Oh, weren't there those presentation videos on weddings? Now, they almost brought it to the point of saying "They beat those who don't do it."

The same brands of phones and accessories, the same daily conservations, the same shows watched on TV, the same clothes worn, the growing similarity between men and women each day by changing the concepts of beauty and power… The concepts of motherhood and fatherhood are thought to be sponsorship offered to the child... 

Social media that insist on uniform diets and the idea of “if you buy this, you will be happy” that surrounds markets… Families who insist that the largest room of their house be used as a museum...

And the fact that no one is surprised by these anymore…

Because it's very normal now...

If a person is not surprised by something that the majority does, his own life more or less follows that norm. When most people do something, it becomes normal.

Why does a man love his wife less when he buys her fewer flowers?

Why a woman is unhappy when she posts fewer videos about her family?

Why do students who compete with their peers fail when they do not get the highest score?

Why is a child labeled as “rebellious” when he call

s the mistakes of his parents "wrong" or when he doesn’t insist on those mistakes?

Why would an employee be a sucker for helping a friend at work?

Because it's very normal now...

Giving space to those in need in public transportation,

Spending time taking photos instead of chatting when meeting with friends,

Not to be surprised by the absurd things we watch in daytime programs and to continue watching,

Focusing on immediate interests instead of things that will turn the sum of one's life into profit...

It is preferred by most people.

Because it's so normal now.

Well, what about the others?

Those who could not comply with the majority or chose not to comply with the majority: Those who are "abnormal",

Those who are stuck in the corner,

The ones who feel alone in the crowd...

Those who try to pay attention to what is healthy in what they eat and drink,

Those who are concerned about being a good woman, a good man, a good wife, a good employee, a good child...

What should they do in these living conditions?

Life is a road...

And where does this road lead?

Right now...

Where are you on this path?

And what do you intend to do?

Life...

What we thought was a long journey was a short journey,

We are just being tested...

So, which was your exam?

What did you give up?

Or what are the ones that you can't give up?

The reasons why you are deprived of a good life...

Where most people do the same thing because it's normal,

What did you change in yourself?

What did you notice?

What did you ignore?

Real and fake, right and wrong; Where normal and abnormal alternate places,

What were your choices based on?

What were all these questions for?

Without getting late, without being late, without delaying...

Are you ready to hear the answers?

But “If there is a question, there is an answer.”

Then I will have something to tell you...